The frenemy ... How many of us have them ......

"Hey girl, cute shoes" says the frenemy as she smiles & smirks in your direction while waiting for you to walk away so she can tell anybody willing to listen how horrible you are. Simultaneously she is googling trying to figure out where she can get a pair while picturing herself walking a mile in those same shoes!

The frenemy, far worse than an enemy because we can never identify them until it's too late! Atleast you know when your enemy is in your presence and keep your guard up knowing that they wish only horrible things on you. You confide in the frenemy tell them your secrets, open up your doors, feed them laugh with them, screenshot your funny convo's and let them borrow that fuk em dress you love all so that they can wear it out all while plotting on using it to seduce your man and show him those screenshots of your "funny" convo about your ex!

Frenemies... each and every one of us have them! They can be our best friend - the person we share our inner most secrets with, they can be a "pretend" friend - someone who's only there when we need something - or, they can be a friend of convenience, someone who only speaks to us when they need something. Of course there are also the "make believe" friends - but those are more for kids, and that's another topic altogether!

So, you think you have a real friend - a friend who cares about you, who supports you through thick and thin do you? Let me ask you this - if you had no job and no car (and weren't wallowing in self pity chasing people away of course), do you know for a fact which friends would come to visit you - to just pop around for a chat. When your Mpower box is beeping, your EBT card tapped out and your direct deposit don't hit until midnight are they gonna come to the rescue? Or nah!?

We all have the fake "friend", the needy "friend" the tell all your business "friend", the smile in your face all while competing with every move you make friend, the pocket watcher, the cock blocker, the insecure, unhappy envious fake friend. They come in so many forms. Mixed with so many emotions.

" I heard this about you! Is it true!? That's what I heard about you! Did that happen to you!? Do you have this? Are you this?" This something that fake friends love to do! Trying to break you down mentally and live your life #AtTheSameDamnTime!

The moments in life when you discover who your true friends are, are more than likely going to be the times when something traumatic has happened - like the death of a loved one, when you've hit rock bottom, or when you've taken a risk to do something and reach out to your friends for support. And those are the moments that make us appreciate it the real ones you have.

If you have true friends in your life appreciate them, guard your relationship, and tell them your greatful!

"The best way to get a real friend is to be a real friend!!!" ~ My boyfriend Vanessa

“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island..to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.” ~ unknown