Strong, independent I can do it all on my own I don't need no man ass woman are and will always be the loneliest souls on Earth! We are still holding out for the Perfect Black Man. Barack Obama is taken already! We have to be more open-minded when it comes to dating. I don’t mean that you have to date an ex-convict with three Baby Mamas, a parole officer, a part time dope business that he runs out his grandmas back yard, But sometimes you may earn more money than the man you are dating, or live in a fancier home, or be merely an inch shorter than him (or gasp, maybe even an inch taller). Give the guy a chance! We are human! There Is NO perfect man the trick is simply finding someone who is perfect for you! The beauty of love is finding someone who knows all your flaw, faults, & insecurities & loves you just the same.
We fear that a man will play us and are then too guarded. While some of us hang on to a no-good man for too long, others of us make each man who comes after that no-good man suffer for what the other guy did. We don’t trust him. We won’t let him in. We refuse to give him the chance of hurting us. And then we end up unscathed—but alone. In my previous blogs I've talked about the balance between having standards and being a crazy too guarded damaged woman!
Ladies stop saying "I don't need a man!" although a lot of us could live and be okay without one the fact is that I'm pretty sure thats not what you want! What man do you think is gonna stick around if all you constantly tell him you don't need him. There's an art to being a woman. There's nothing wrong with being submissive. make your man feel like a man! Allow your man to be a man!!! You don't have to constantly talk down and belittle your man to get your point across. All that neck rolling, name calling, and constant attitude is not the way to make a man want to put a ring on it but Beyonce left that part out of the song!
Smile more! Stop walking around with your nose turned up and forehead wrinkled up thinking a man is gonna approach you! They can spot that stank ass attitude a Mile away. We don’t smile enough. You know that annoying (often homeless) man on the street who says, “Smile, honey! You’re too pretty to be looking so unhappy!” He’s trying to tell you something. Men like women who are happy. Happy people smile.
Stop being so angry at ever black man that walks the Earth! . We can’t control what Black men do, who they date, or who they marry. They want to be happy just like we do, and they aren’t going to change their lives to make someone else happy if it means they will be less so. We should stop focusing so much on what Black men are and aren’t doing, and focus on what we can control—ourselves. I’m not saying that Black women are to blame for the decline of Black love but hey it could be one of the many variables. Stop blaming the white woman!!!! Same thing here. They aren’t “taking our men”. They’re living their lives just like everyone else.
Woman if every man you come In contact with tells you the same things guess what? EVERYBODY else is not the problem!! Look within yourself and see if you could possibly be pushing these men away! #ImJustSaying
All I'm saying is ladies it okay to be LADIES! Stop trying to be a damn man! If a man wanted a man well he would .... Nevermind you get my drift! It's okay to let Someone in. Tell your man you want to be held, make him feel wanted, needed, and be submissive that doesn't mean be a damn door mat but Shut the hell up sometimes! The bible defines submission as "yielding to another's desires without resistance" now yielding to desires I interpret that is doing what it takes to make your partner happy. That doesn't mean allow them to treat you like shit. Now some of you may interpret it differently or not believe in a higher power or have different beliefs and that's okay too. These are just my opinions but what the hell do I know I'm still single my damn self. LOL
Very well said! I am 50% like this lol. I make exceptions, but I did hold on to a lame for 10years!! But you are so right Shea. I don't walk around smiling but I have a million reasons to so time to start!! Thanks mama needed to read this!
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ReplyDeleteSo refreshing to read those sweet words from a woman. It was a pleasure reading your views, as a black man, I get really sad, when I read the hateful posts of angry and bitter black women, towards black men. I applaud you woman for your positive views.
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