If your guy always/constantly puts his friends and his plans in front of you then he's just not that into you.
We all have had the crush that went on for months and sometimes even years without going anywhere no matter what we did or didn’t do. For a period of time we would comfort ourselves by saying that he just didn’t know we were serious, he's waiting for me to prove i can be the woman he wants etc etc We constantly make excuses for their behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt in hopes that possibly they are just too busy! The minute you stop making excuses for people you will begin to see them for exactly who they are! Now then there's the guy who's alway out with friends but makes no time for you yea that bro's before hoes shit was probably a valid argument from grammar school up to about 10th grade depending on the guy but after that, if he knows you and still behaves like that hea either extremely childish or he’s not interested. If he wanted you for anything he’d ask for it. However, that’s just too hard and/or sad to face because we are awesome so how could he not be into us and furthermore, if we’re not busy liking him what are we going to do with our attentions? Been there, done that. Let’s just focus on ourselves and making them achingly dwell on the fact that they missed out on their chance with us.
How about the guy that we actually are dating but acts like we are the last priority when they are not with us because he’s busy with work, friends, family or other commitments? Don’t fool yourself into thinking that there’s a future with this guy. Chances are very good that he’s never going to appreciate you for more than he does now, someone that’s willing to wait around until he has time for you. You deserve more than that. If he was really into you, you’d never question why he isn’t spending time with you because he’d be spending as much time as you wanted.
How about the guy that would prefer to be with another girl over you? The only thing that she has that you don’t is him. And frankly, it’s better that way. You should never be second choice, part time chic or treated like an option! Treat me like an option and ill treat you like an object #Replaceable. You always want to be his first choice. Then you’ll know he’s really into you.
Guys use a different language with girls that they want to keep around in case they change their mind or are loosely dating. It's called boyspeak. If he's giving you some semblance of the truth or an outright lie then he's giving you boyspeak and that is biggest of indicators that he is just not that into you. If a guy never bothers to ask if you're seeing someone or if you have a man is probably only interested in one thing and could care less If you have a man, he's secretly hoping you do so he can make a swift escape after pulling up his jeans. If the only effort he makes to see you is for one thing and he never asks to take you out or around his friends or family he's just not that into you!
But then sometimes they are into you & may genuinely just have a busy life well fellas let me say this if you are interested you better make an effort & make it quickly. Woman chose to lose interest quickly when they feel they're not getting the attention they want! Or cant decipher if your genuinely busy or just a damn good bullshitter! Well I do anyway I can't speak for everyone but if you give me too many suspect excuses I'll lose interest quick af! Send me to voicemail too many times I'll delete your number quick af but that's just me.... I'm the type if a dude hang up on me he thinking he giving me time to cool off by I'll be done changed my number so fast and have him talking to the operator confused as fuk! Please believe if a man cares about you he's gonna hear you out regardless if he wants to or not! Because he knows if he doesn't he takes a chance at losing u!
At the end of the day trust your instinct follow your guy feeling! If You just don't trust the man. And what's a relationship if you don't have trust? Sit with your thoughts and come to grips with why you don't believe him. If the relationship is that important to you, after you do some soul searching and thinking on your own, sit him down for a talk. Work things through — find out what the problem is, and try to remedy the situation before it gets even more difficult.
It seems like When a guy meets a girl he likes. He starts talking to her, and there's electricity in the air. Attraction. He can tell she likes him. A lot, even.
She tells him all kinds of things about herself, her eyes wide and filled with excitement. It feels as though there's a bubble around them, in which only they exist; the outside world falls away.
For a while, as time passes, the energy and enthusiasm only builds. It builds and builds, until it hits a peak; a crescendo. And then... it begins to fade.
The guy panics mentally; he doesnt know what he's getting hisself into he can tell he's losing this girl, whom he felt so sure was his only minutes before. He works hard, trying to turn things around, to reignite the passion that was there. But alas, his efforts fail, and the fire dies.
He's fallen victim to a painful fact of life and love: attraction has an expiration date.
But what's more painful is, guys almost never realize this is why they failed. Usually they assume it was a value problem, or that they need to get better at maintaining attraction.
If only they knew the truth: they did just fine with attraction. It was, ultimately, that failure to act in a timely enough manner or put forth the appropriate effort that led them to losing the girl.
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