Too many baby showers not enough weddings ..... Our children the victims...

"Thats just my Baby-mama/daddy" seems to be the trend of the decade! Raising a child alone is not an easy task. I happen to know this from experience: Ive been a single mother for the last 7 years. Most parents who contemplate raising a child on their own have mixed emotions. They want the best for their child, and they want to believe that they are up to the job. But it is difficult not to buy into the persistent notion that children of single parents are somehow doomed, that they will become delinquents, that they will never have happy relationships of their own.

So here's the news: it is possible to raise a happy, healthy, capable child as a single mother or father. You do not need to run out and find a partner or a 'role model’ for your child. But successful single parenthood does take work, planning, and a great deal of thought and energy. If you are parenting alone (or are thinking about doing so), it will help you immensely to learn all you can about child development, appropriate behavior, and parenting skills. And you will need to become skilled at keeping your priorities straight. Most single parents must work, maintain a home, parent a child or two, and still find time to stay healthy themselves. It isn't easy.

I wanna talk a little bit about females using their kids. Im talking about selfish women who use their children to control people & situations. These woman are sad excuses of parents and a complete mockery to the word "mom". Guys constantly get a bad wrap for being dead beats but no one speaks on the games women play with their children. Your child is not a pawn or a paycheck to be used as u feel to control or direct a mans life to live as you feel.

I think it's a cheap way for a broken hurt women to "get back" at men who have some how scarred them. Women need to realize during this process you yo-yo the child's happiness in the balance.What the "supposed mature adults" should realize is that the child(ren) are the only people that are 100% innocent, yet they are the ones getting their hearts 100% shattered!

NEWS FLASH LADIES: having sex won’t make him love you and having a baby won’t make him stay!!!

I'm not saying that child support is not necessary or that men shouldn't be responsible to take care of their children as much as a woman because after all you laid down you made your choice nobody hi jacked your sperm at gunpoint!

Fellas now however unfair some of these tactics are you gotta stop playing the victim!

Of course there are SOME women who may take your child support and purchase a brand new, cotton-candy blue Lacefront, but let’s not act as if there aren’t MANY women who actually NEED that money to feed the family, keep the lights on and make sure there is hot water and air conditioning in the house. If you have an issue paying for your child, you are a DOUCHEBAG because once you bring a child into this world you should EXPECT to contribute most of your money to raising that kid REGARDLESS of if you are in a relationship with the mother or not! If you got the new J's and poppin bottles in the club every weekend but constantly complaining about paying your child support you need to re-evaluate your life in then find the nearest highway overpass and leap head first!

My point is that in the process of this back and forth nonsense the only people who really suffer are our children! First of all there are too many options to prevent pregnancy in the first place, but if you get to a point where you CHOSE to bring a child in this world you damn sure better be ready to be an adult and own up to your responsibility & I'm speaking On BOTH men & woman! Stop talking shit about you're co-parent to your kids! let them develop & make their own decision about their parent! Give these kids a chance to be more than statistics. Stop punishing your kids for your bad choices!

Moms and dads....take a moment,lay back and just watch how this is affecting your child(ren). It should be enough to make you change your behavior, plus you will also feel better about yourself.